My dear departed and very heterosexual friend Norman Mailer (six marriages — all to females) once called marriage an excrementitious union. Ruthless, yes, but spot on. Personally, I believe everyone has the right to screw up their life as they see fit and so did Norman. He told me, his gay assistant, that if gay people want to gamble away their sanity then let them. Marriage is not an easy union, regardless of genitalia.